This morning my husband and daughter were analyzing her golf game. I noticed that he asked her to tell him what she did well. In the past he used to always ask her what she did wrong.. why did she miss that putt or why did her ball not land on the green and so on. She used to get really stressed and that would lead to lot of anger and resentment. Now he focuses on what she does well and the dynamics are completely different. They still analyze the bad shots but focus more on the good ones.
I believe, we learn more from our rights than from our wrongs! We think we learn from our mistakes but every time we think of our past mistakes and failures, we get upset, angry and depressed. By focusing on our mistakes and failures we strengthen those synapses, where as when we remember our success and happiness we reinforce that memory and connection.
So next time you are at a cross road — think about your past successes and achievements, pat yourself on the back, put your chin up and move on.
